On roaming, breakfasts and hugs...

      

       After going through the so-called first phase of my wedded life, I have come across this particular campaign from J&J that goes on explaining how “care inspires care” and that this holds good for all sorts of scenarios… Whether you are a nurse/child/mother/worker/ architect/clergymen/dentist….. Care inspires care. I take it a step further and say this: Love inspires love. I realized this with my better half. This realization comes with a   simple routine of breakfast, lunch and hugs. I dunno if I am being mushy about it, but if I am, I am J. Let me list out things on the top of my head to corroborate this.

We enjoy trying out new places and experimenting with our tummies. Yes, I’m talking about food :D I have never come across someone who matches my taste in cuisine or who can so sedately be enthused at the prospect of good food. I look forward to visiting a place only to try out food there (and snap pictures of course). I realized that my wife rates a place on the basis of the food there :D. Not important if it beats cholesterol/ it is packed with fiber protein/fights cancer and slows down aging. What tastes good is good food! We fit together so perfectly. What are the odds?

We enjoy laughing together. (Yes, my I came to know that my famous PJs can arouse laughter after all). I am told that my puns inspire anger, not humor, thanks for proving them wrong! Two weeks without Internet taught us a few lessons: First, it showed me personally that too many of my hobbies take place online, so I need to work to develop other ways to relax after difficult days at work. Second, it reminded us that we take a host of things for granted in this life; I hadn’t recently thought about the blessing of Internet access until it was taken away. Third, the loss of Internet service made me thankful for you and your patience. Even in difficult, frustrating situations, you are remarkably patient and understanding.

Oh yes, I have broken one more misconception. Couple soaps need not be sitcoms or the mushy types. The first serial we enjoyed Breaking Bad :D There’s one more stereotype broken. One of my favorite things about you is your childlike joy for life. You teach me how to laugh often, at even the smallest things.Lately we have enjoyed watching animated movies together. Some would say those are just for kids, but you and I have a great time watching them. We laugh loudly, and for weeks after we end up quoting the movies back to each other (Da da da popoi).

We enjoy traveling, and it is always nice to go visit family. But after a ten-day vacation, we are glad to be back in our own home, with our own routines, at our own jobs. We are glad to be sleeping in our own bed, eating our own food. So there’s one more thing in common. I personally would stop bothering how tired I am and start getting into a frenzied clean-freak mode and start tossing things around, reorganizing stuff . But you have made sure that I don’t need to go through this…Thank you for being charitable with your time taking care of so many of the day-to-day requirements of having a peaceful, well-run home.

Among the many things I learnt in this crash course, I also learnt that being an incurable romantic doesn’t involve music, dance, art, theatre.  Aspiring to be an idealist, charitable, compassionate and innovative is enough. Even though other couples tell us that we are still in the “honeymoon” phase of marriage, we already have moments where we get frustrated with one another, and I don’t enjoy those times. But on an afterthought, I realize that things get out of hand only when values get misplaced and perfection is not met. So I thank you for being an idealist during those times. 

Love is all around us. All that it matters is for us to accept it and return the same. Not many in the world realize how blessed they are. What the world needs is really basic. Simple. Bare-boned.& often forgotten in the race to get followers, likes & status.LOVE. Pure, old-fashioned, never goes out of style Love. Fearless, bold, unstoppable love. And I want it… I know that it’s gonna be a fun ride together . I'm looking forward to enriching our lives and intellect through silliness and happiness.

Our priorities lately :-D

Holding back how I feel? Well, here it is... Read this long blog and you'll know!

“Dude, see you after our vacation….” Taunted Mahesh. Already feeling miserable, I watched my friends pack their clothes for a trip to Udupi and Gokharna while I struggled with the syllabus book. I had exams. They did not. My torture was as simple as that. “Yaar, can I borrow your cap? I don’t have a spare one” enquired my roommate Satyakaam. “Yes, yes it might rain, carry one Satya..” piped in Prithvi, their tour guide. I gave it to him, reluctantly. It was not that I was attached to it, but that I was not joining them on their jaunt. “I am coming!” I declared all out of the blue; “preparation can wait, I shall drop you guys to Majestic and come back. That’ll settle me down” I said. “OK bro,” conceded Mahesh with an I – can – understand – sort of smile across his gleeful face.

We took an auto-rick, in a true student budget style and shared the bill among us 4. Upon reaching half way to the bus station, I get a text from our class representative: “Sarath, our exams got postponed by a month. Please intimate it to our classmates” Aha! A sudden change in winds… Snap goes my mobile, turned off and secure in my pocket. “Screw you guys, I’m going too!” I yell, to the surprise of our poor autowala. Thus began our trip to Manipal and Gokharna. The trip that was pure bliss packed in 7 days and where I brushed closely with death.

Let me skip to the part where we went to Gokharna. Manipal was fun, but nothing in comparision to the sunny beaches. We waved goodbye to Prithvi’s twin brother- awesome chap- at Tiger circle and got onto a bus. Reaching Gokharna, an autowala hailed us (pun intended) and riding over the ravine, gave us the first glimpse of our promised land. The Aum beach, adjacent to the more secluded kudle beach. Ahoy went the 4 wayfarers, with a skip in our feet, sand and salt on our faces. Aum beach was calling.

We went to one of the many exotic looking cafés’. Had a heavy continental breakfast for lunch and found our magnetic course towards the sea. Elementary physics classes of buoyancy came to our minds and we started playing ‘catches’ with a pepsi bottle that was floating in the salty waters. Bored from this mundane activity, Prithvi suggests: “whoever touched that big rock in the middle gets a free dinner!” Sport AND treat… what can stop us? Prithvi was a disadvantage here. He was new to water and beaches, hailing from Rajasthan, the official sand exporter for real estate. I on the other hand, being from coastal India had no such obstacles. My esoteric knowledge of walking in shallow waters landed me first in the race, closely followed by Mahesh and Satyakaam. We could hear Prithvi’s yells and banter but that was it.

This is where my mental notes on laws of elementary physics flipped a few pages more. Here is a note from Shri Sarath Chandra ji’s guide to unnatural observations: “If you are to put your foot in the beach waters, sand around it would erode away. Not what would happen if the same concept is to be applied to the big rock ahead of us?”

All this processing happened in no more than a flash of a second. I turned back to warn my friends of my new-found brilliance and avert their certain doom; only did I realise that it was a bit too late. Mahesh apparently registered the terror in my eyes – through my glasses, that were soggy with saline water- and warned Satyakaam and Prithvi to stay back. I was sucked into the sea.

So what actually happened was, the sand around our trophy rock got washed away, courtesy the incessant waves. I was pulled into a vortex the void has created. My awesome swimming skills that comprised of the dead man’s float in a perfectly still swimming pool came of no help. Kicked and I kicked the salty water, had it heed a guy, it would have retaliated. But no avail. The 12 foot water level was a pacific ocean for my height. The more I struggled, the farther I went away from my friends. My minimal sight impeded the situation further. I conceded with fate and stopped it all, hoping for something miraculous to happen.

And it did.

I hit the rock’s bottom. And kicked an almighty kick.

Only if my school football coach was there to watch the pressure I kicked with. I was afloat. Not so much to breathe and cheer, but to get a glimpse of my buddies. That was sufficient like a manna potion to an arcade gamer in agony. I could make out that my friends were making a human chain structure to pull me onto firm footing and eventually, ashore. I sank back.

The silence was absolute. I had never reached this state of mind, which a few claim to have reached in heights of their meditation. The roaring sea, slapping viciously over our trophy rock was suddenly put onto MUTE. My yelling friends went distant and calm. I could see bright start in the dark waters. And that was when I felt Satyakaam sharply tugging onto my hair.

Pulled out of my reverie, I surfaced, coughing and cursing. Then I realised that Satya,- with his mighty long arms- was delegated the job to pull me up. He was afloat, with his left hand reaching out to me, and the right firmly clasped to Mahesh and Prithvi. When I feel hopeful and glad for having a friend like him, the bugger takes back his hand and screams “hold onto my back”.

It must have been my fluent curses that made him proffer his left arm once more. I can’t remember. All I can remember is his stunned look after, like “dude, you can swear like a hag!”. I digress. So here we are, being pulled, one by one onto the blessed sands and we reach to safety.

Moral of the lesson? Physics is good. Remember it well, and know how to swear. A bit of swearing always comes in handy :-D

Why I keep comparing every place with Hyderabad....

Granted that my stay at the paradise city was brief. But that has never stopped me getting all nostalgic about the place. Hyderabad has been the first place I’ve freaked out to the fullest and came into touch some of the extremes of enjoyment- nothing illegal I promise you :-D Every other place I visit, I keep drawing some or the other comparison to it, be it Delhi or Bangalore.

For starters, you might think I have had good company, which made my stay there such a memorable one. Yes, I’ve been with a motley, jolly group. And no, it was not entirely due to the group; the place itself is, I feel makes you a fun loving person. You don’t group up with people, groups sort of happen. Hanging out is not occasional and fun, but a part of daily activity. Got a promotion? Hang out, have a treat. Got relatives visiting? Hang out, visit a holy place, have a treat. Got a reason to celebrate? Hang out, pick a place, have a treat. Got bored? Hang out with your gang, have a treat. You never run out of options to hang out. And the best part is, you’re never out of ideas or places to go visit.

It is the cultural hub of Andhra, a place to cherish and always will have a soft corner in my heart. No matter how less frequently I visit, memories of Paradise junction, late night rides over Madhapur, early morning irani tea, sneaky rounds around durgam cheruvu, lazy days at Ramoji and dola-ri-dhani will always be there with me, with a warm fuzzy feeling of the times I’ve spent with my brother and others.